Hello, September! Hello, new beginnings!
The month that for many years marked the beginning of a new year. The school year that is. Somehow for many years, September felt full of hope. Once I was studying at uni, you’d think my year would then begin in October, but it stayed the same. Even now that my uni years seem so far away, September still feels like the right time for the new beginnings.
When nature prepares itself to slow down after the summer insanity, my heart starts to beat just a little bit faster. Autumn is definitely my season. It is romantic. And mysterious. Autumn is windy and therefore hopeful.
What is it that is coming my way with the new wind? Is it the old and comforting or the new and challenging? Nonetheless, September in my eyes is definitely exciting!
It is the time of the year to slow down and take care of yourself. And that is exactly what I am going to do.
Who would you be if you could be anyone in this world?
I’ve been thinking about it for a while now, and I believe this is the right time for me to find my best self or at least the version of myself which I will be most pleased with.
After the month of August which marked my social media detox, I am doing a detox from all the “bad” habits in the month of September.
In the last few years, it has become very popular to talk about living an authentic life. Being your authentic self. I don’t like that term very much though. To me, it sounds pretentious. But I must admit that it stands for what I’m trying to achieve.
I understand the term in sense of an inner voice that just creeps into you. The inner voice that doesn’t want to silent itself and makes you wonder. Wonder on how to become honest with yourself and true to your own core beliefs and yearnings.
How to start over when you’ve become so used to being you?
Becoming your best-self does not occur naturally It requires a lot of conscious effort. You have to make a decision on who you’d like to be and make it happen.
I believe in small steps and manageable changes. Things that happen over night and go into extremes are often hard to sustain. Think about what are the things that have been bugging you the most about yourself.
Write a list and start with the ones at the top.
New beginnings are hard…
…and somehow they seem even harder as we grow older. That’s why you should be proud of yourself for trying and making an effort! Would you like to be more healthy?
Start with simple meal changes to see what works well for you. And don’t be angry at yourself if/when an occasional slip happens.
Are you trying to be more active? Start with simple things – walk the stairs instead of using the elevator. Go for a long walk and eventually turn it into a jog. You know what I mean, it really is the little things.
I get easily overwhelmed, that is why I believe in simplicity and being proud of yourself not only when you achieve grand and epic growth and changes, but being proud even when small, almost unnoticeable changes occur.
3 ways on how to be your best self:
Think about your family values and adapt them to serve you better
This is the topic that’s been a lot on my mind lately. You grow up your whole life knowing your family values and not really seeing any other way. That is especially true, if you like me, have spent your life with a circle of friends that all share similar or same family values.
Then you grow up and you find yourself in relationships and you have to face the reality. The reality is that there are many families that do not share your same values but still function perfectly fine. Sometimes you question what you’ve learnt at home. And you find yourself liking some of these new found values quite a bit. And then you have to ask yourself – how are my own values and beliefs serving me? Are they serving me well? Are they aligned with my yearnings and the idea of my best self? If not, you have to adapt them to serve you better or just change them altogether. I guess it’s really hard because we often times don’t want to disappoint our loved ones. At the end of your day, we all have to find our own way and can’t be tamed by the lessons we learned from our younger years in our families when we thought of our family members as of the ones who have it all figured out.
Listen to your intuition and say “NO”
How many times did you want to say ‘no’ when instead you’ve said ‘yes’ only to regret it later? Especially us women, I find we have a really strong intuition, which we, unfortunately, a lot of times quiet down. I believe if we really listen, most often than not, we know the answer. Are you unhappy with your relationships or with your job situation? You don’t like who you’ve become? Listen to your intuition and say ‘NO’! Say no to things that are not driving you where you want to go. Say no, and take care of yourself first instead of pleasing others.
Saying no is one of those things that I struggle a lot with. My intuition says one thing but I choose to ignore it to please others, which ends up with me feeling unsatisfied and disappointed.
Accept yourself and move on
For me, this is one of the biggest struggles. There are still a lot of things from my past that won’t let me sleep at night. I believe it’s really important to be able to forgive yourself for everything that you’ve done wrong and move on. There really is no need playing the same movies over and over again in your head, when the reality is none of us can go back in time to change things for the better. If you feel like you did not treat yourself with the respect you deserve or that you did not take full advantage of certain situations or you did not spend your time wisely… I think we will just have to learn to live with this remorses and let go of them.
You have to distance yourself from past mistakes, let go and move on to become a better person.
Accept your old self and move on!
Now that you know who you really are, which are the things that you would change if you had a chance? Your chance is the future! There’s no sense in looking back. It’s a stupid waste of time in my opinion and that is why in the month of September I am letting go of whatever that has been holding me back. I am letting go and moving on!
This year September will be amazing because it will be full of new beginnings!
I wish you all an Autumn of self-love and appreciation!
*Not that long ago, I started a series of blog posts titled “A letter to you“. The series focuses on finding happiness and finding meaning in my life through various challenges and steps that make me happier in the long run.
If you’d like to read more, search A letter to you in the search bar, or click HERE for a direct link to the first post from the series.